Audiobook Now Available for Purchase! Get it Free

I'm excited to announce that the audiobook version of Why Can't I Just Leave, narrated by voiceover actor Sheri Saginor, is now for sale through Audible, Amazon, and iTunes. The Why Can't I Just Leave unabridged audiobook is packed with all of the same research and survivor stories as the print version and comes with a ready-to-download PDF attachment of all of the tables, figures, and appendices. You can get it for free right now! Click here to sign up for Audible and immediately grab the audiobook at no charge just for giving Audible a 30-day trial period.

Don’t Miss the World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day Virtual Summit! June 1-2

The biggest narcissistic abuse summit of the year! Coming June 1-2
Claim your FREE spot now! (100% Virtual Event) This year, the event features video interviews so you can watch and listen. You'll leave each interview with actionable tools and strategies you can use. Go here now to save your spot:
I'll be speaking about the most dangerous aspect of narcissistic abuse and how to use a technique called "cognitive restructuring" to fight back. 
The lineup of speakers this year is an awesome mix of field veterans and new voices with valuable insights...
🔥Debbie Mirza (author of The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing after Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse)
🔥Shahida Arabi (author of Becoming the Narcissist's Worst Nightmare)
🔥Donna Andersen (founder of
🔥Tracy Malone (founder of Narcissistic Abuse Support Network)
🔥Sandra Brown, M.A (author of Women Who Love Psychopaths)
🔥Chelli Pumphrey, LPC (author of Insight is 20/20: How To Trust Yourself To Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationships)
🔥Tina Swithin (author of One Mom's Battle: Divorcing a Narcissist)
The best-selling authors, psychologists, psychotherapists, coaches, educators, and advocates have helped COUNTLESS survivors...
... break FREE from abusive relationships and HEAL from interpersonal trauma...
And... They'll be sharing their insights and STRATEGIES…
… to help you EMPOWER yourself (or your clients) to get unstuck and RECLAIM the life you deserve.
Imagine not just surviving the trauma of a narcissistic relationship but GROWING as a result of your struggle, and feeling STRONGER, finding RENEWED meaning, purpose, and enjoying deeper CONNECTIONS with others and yourself?
This SUMMIT only happens once a year... don't miss out!
Grab your spot for the free training here:

Super Recovery Pack Contest Winner!

On October 22, Katie Mannheim won the following prizes in the final book release contest of the past few weeks: Thank you to everyone who pre-ordered or ordered the book before noon on October 22 or requested an advance reader copy!

Virtual Book Release Party

Tuesday, October 19 marks the on-sale date for the book, available in ebook, paperback and hardback.
Join us on this day as we celebrate at various points throughout the day on the Fairy Tale Shadows Facebook page:
You'll have an opportunity to watch short videos about the book's release, including an in-depth peek at what's inside the book, a reading, and a get-to-know-you chat with Kristen as she answers your questions. You'll also have opportunities to win free copies of the book and will be able to download free stuff!
Schedule on October 19:*
9:00 AM - Book Release Official Kickoff - Includes prize giveaway instructions 12:00 PM - Sneak Peek - Learn more about what's inside the book, hear a reading, and get a free download of part of the book 3:00 PM - Chat with the Author - Kristen will be answering your questions 7:00 PM - Prize winners announced!
*Times above are in EST and denote the earliest each of these events will be posted on the Fairy Tale Shadows Facebook page throughout the day.
Come back to see and participate in each one!

It’s Contest Time!

Visit to stay informed about how to enter and win!


1. Eligibility: This Campaign is open only to those who perform the stated task or tasks as specified for each of the contests and who are 18 years of age or older as of the date of entry. The Campaign is subject to all applicable international, federal, state, and local laws and regulations. Void where prohibited. 2. Agreement to Rules: By participating, the Contestant (“You”) agree to be fully unconditionally bound by these Rules, and You represent and warrant that You meet the eligibility requirements. In addition, You agree to accept the decisions of Kristen Milstead and Fairy Tale Shadows as final and binding as it relates to the content of this Campaign. 3. Campaign Period: Entries will be accepted online starting on September 21, 2021,1:00 pm EST and ending October 21, 2021, 11:59 pm EST. All online entries must be received between September 21, 2021 1:00 pm EST and September 30, 2021, 11:59 pm EST for Drawing #1, between October 1, 2021 12:00 am EST and October 12, 2021, 11:59 pm EST for Drawing #2, and between October 13, 2021, 12:00 am EST and October 21, 11:59 pm EST, 2021 for Drawing #3. 4. How to Enter: The Campaign must be entered by responding to specific rules denoted in social media posts and/or newsletters sent to website subscribers, including but not limited to: sharing posts, pre-purchasing books, e-mailing the author, or other methods. The entry must fulfill all Campaign requirements, as specified in posts and emails, to be eligible to win a prize. Entries that are incomplete or do not adhere to the rules or specifications may be disqualified at the sole discretion of Kristen Milstead. You must provide the information requested. You may not enter more times than indicated by using multiple email addresses, identities, or devices in an attempt to circumvent the rules. If You use fraudulent methods or otherwise attempt to circumvent the rules, your submission may be removed from eligibility at the sole discretion of Kristen Milstead. 5. Prizes: The Winner(s) of the Campaign (the “Winner”) will receive one or more of the following prizes: a copy of the author’s book; a Recovery Book Package consisting of five narcissistic recovery books; a Kindle Fire; a $100 Amazon gift card. The approximate retail value of all prizes given is approximately $750. Actual/appraised value may differ at time of prize award. Those residing outside the United States are eligible for digital versions of the Recovery Book Package only. The specifics of the prize shall be solely determined by Kristen Milstead. The prize is nontransferable. Any and all prize-related expenses, including without limitation any and all federal, state, and/or local taxes, shall be the sole responsibility of Winner. No substitution of prize or transfer/assignment of prize to others or request for the cash equivalent by Winner is permitted. Acceptance of prize constitutes permission for Kristen Milstead to use Winner’s name, likeness, and entry for purposes of advertising and trade without further compensation unless prohibited by law. 6. Odds: The odds of winning depend on the number of eligible entries received. 7. Winner Selection and Notification: Winner will be selected by a random drawing. Winner will be notified by email or Facebook messenger within five (5) days following selection of Winner. Kristen Milstead shall have no liability for Winner’s failure to receive notices due to spam, junk e-mail, or other security settings or for Winner’s provision of incorrect or otherwise non-functioning contact information. If Winner cannot be contacted, is ineligible, fails to claim the prize within 7 days from the time award notification was sent, or fails to timely return a completed and executed declaration and release as required, the prize may be forfeited and an alternate Winner selected. Receipt by Winner of the prize offered in this Campaign is conditioned upon compliance with any and all federal, state, and local laws and regulations. ANY VIOLATION OF THESE OFFICIAL RULES BY WINNER (AT KRISTEN MILSTEAD’S SOLE DISCRETION) WILL RESULT IN WINNER’S DISQUALIFICATION AS WINNER OF THE CAMPAIGN, AND ALL PRIVILEGES AS WINNER WILL BE IMMEDIATELY TERMINATED. 9. Terms & Conditions: Kristen Milstead reserves the right, in its sole discretion, to cancel, terminate, modify or suspend the Campaign should virus, bug, non-authorized human intervention, fraud, or other cause beyond Kristen Milstead’s control corrupt or affect the administration, security, fairness, or proper conduct of the Campaign. In such case, Kristen Milstead may select the Winner from all eligible entries received prior to and/or after (if appropriate) the action taken by Kristen Milstead Kristen Milstead reserves the right, in its sole discretion, to disqualify any individual who tampers or attempts to tamper with the entry process or the operation of the Campaign or website or violates these Terms & Conditions. Kristen Milstead has the right, in its sole discretion, to maintain the integrity of the Campaign, to void votes for any reason, including, but not limited to: multiple entries from the same user from different IP addresses; multiple entries from the same computer in excess of that allowed by Campaign rules; or the use of bots, macros, scripts, or other technical means for entering. Any attempt by an entrant to deliberately damage any website or undermine the legitimate operation of the Campaign may be a violation of criminal and civil laws. Should such an attempt be made, Kristen Milstead reserves the right to seek damages to the fullest extent permitted by law. 10. 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Disputes: THIS Campaign IS GOVERNED BY THE LAWS OF the United States AND Washington, D.C., WITHOUT RESPECT TO CONFLICT OF LAW DOCTRINES. As a condition of participating in this Campaign, participant agrees that any and all disputes that cannot be resolved between the parties, and causes of action arising out of or connected with this Campaign, shall be resolved individually, without resort to any form of class action, exclusively before a court located in Washington, D.C. having jurisdiction. Further, in any such dispute, under no circumstances shall participant be permitted to obtain awards for, and hereby waives all rights to, punitive, incidental, or consequential damages, including reasonable attorney’s fees, other than participant’s actual out-of-pocket expenses (i.e. costs associated with entering this Campaign). Participant further waives all rights to have damages multiplied or increased. 12. 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Over 60 million people have had a pathological partner. Are you one of them?

Do you feel fiercely loyal toward your partner although your partner has put you through unspeakable acts of cruelty and betrayal?
Has your partner lied so much that sometimes you aren't sure you know what's real or who your partner really is? Have you tried to break off the relationship yet feel powerless to stop your partner from walking in and out of your life? Do you alternate between believing that your partner is the love of your life and questioning your sanity or even feeling your life may be in danger? Using the stories of survivors and social psychological research on compliance, cognitive dissonance, and thought control, Why Can't I Just Leave? explains how relationships with pathological partners can create impossible dilemmas that trap you in a distorted dream-state and hijack your thoughts and emotions. Learn what those who are conscience-impaired don't want you to know and find out how to wake up and walk out of your partner's invisible prison forever. Why Can't I Just Leave? is now available for pre-order in ebook, hardback, and paperback and will be available on October 19. Go here to pre-order now!
Pre-order before the release date of October 19 and you'll receive a free digital gift pack including the first chapter now plus a deleted chapter that's not in the book and will never be available to those who wait to purchase later. Simply pre-order the book and send a copy of your pre-order receipt to
Want a free signed copy? Please send an email to by Monday, September 27 to sign up to be an early reviewer and given your honest review of the book on Amazon on the release date of October 19. In addition to receiving a free copy, the first 50 people who leave a review will also receive a special recovery kit and five entries in a drawing for prizes on October 22, including a $100 Amazon gift card (with a list of the top recovery books you may want to purchase)!
Also... contests coming soon! Over the next few weeks, I'll be holding contests where no purchase is necessary for free recovery books written by many different authors (and other items), so please stay tuned.
Stay strong!

Book available for pre-sale now!

Why Can't I Just Leave? is now available for pre-sale on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and Target in ebook, paperback, and hardback formats! The book will officially be released on October 19, 2021. If you'd like to be an advance reviewer and provide an honest review on Amazon, contact me for a free copy.  The first twenty-five people who leave a review on October 19 will receive via email a chapter that was cut from the book.  Follow the Fairy Tale Shadows Facebook page to learn more!  
Audiobook coming in Spring 2022
Workbook coming in Summer 2022

Book to Be Released on October 5!

We can now announce that the book will be available on October 5. More details to be announced soon.  In just days, you will be able to place an order for your copy in hardback, paperback or e-book. Don't want to wait that long? Stay tuned for more information about how you can get an early copy for free!